So you want to learn the habits of successful people that you can implement today! If want to know how to be more successful the fist question to ask yourself is what defines success to you? Until we understand this, I don’t think any of us can be truely successful. Personally, I believe that success is finding happiness. After all, if you asked almost any person what do they want out of life they will almost always answer “to be happy” (or to ‘find love’ which ultimately brings happiness)
So, what is happiness? Happiness is a state of being. Of course we can’t be totally upbeat and completely happy ALL the time. We are emotional beings, and to trying and suppress the negative emotions does not work. Trust me, I’ve tried it. Not letting myself process these emotions actually just encouraged them to drag out for much longer than they needed to. DUH! (lesson learnt) So in order to create success we need to find happiness and exist in a state of mind that is ‘balanced’ and sustainable. (i.e. you don’t have to be a ridiculously energetic, multitasking, super hero to be successful! – YAY!)
Of late I have been totally emerging myself in Podcasts. The people whom I enjoy listening to are people whom have found great success in their lives. These individuals have followed their passions and created a lifestyle which they absolutely love end enjoy. People like The Merrymaker Sisters , Melissa Ambrosini and the gorgeous Tony Robbins (who by the way has the best Scratchy American Voice EVER- and such an infectious love of life). In each of their podcasts these people interview other highly successful persons and share a wealth of wisdom regarding how to improve your happiness and wellbeing.
Note: you do NOT need to consider yourself ‘unhappy’ to find these podcasts inspirational and enjoyable. After all, life is a journey, and whilst we want our minds to be ‘present’ and living ‘in the now’, the most successful people continue to seek greater happiness and success for the future.
Back to the podcasts…. After binge listening to a stack of podcasts I realised that there are at least 10 common habits of these super successful (i.e. happy) people. I wanted to share them with you. Why? Because I am a little bit obsessed with trying to help women like you find your greatest happiness in life. YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS. For us to be the best role models for our children and family we need to be the best version of ourselves. When we are committed to being the best version of ourselves, we are more likely to be ‘full’ and content. It is in this state of mind that we can contribute to the life of others in a much stronger, more meaningful, more positive and powerful way.
Lets explore what it is that successful peopled do…
10 HABITS OF SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE:
- They seriously value their health and wellbeing
- They practice gratefulness
- They follow their intuition
- They live their passion
- They do not let ‘rules’ of society mould their life
- They use their ‘failures’ to add to their success
- They are willing to take risks and do uncomfortable things
- They meditate
- They are in tune with themselves
- They LIVE with LOVE
The great news is that you can start implementing these habits into your day to day life right away, and they don’t need to take up loads of time. Let’s look a little deeper and let me explain these habits in more detail. I want to give you some actionable ways that you can implement these habits into your life TODAY!
VALUE YOUR HEALTH AND WELLBEING
Firstly, let me just say that HEALTH is WAY more than just what you put in your mouth and how often you choose to exercise. Health, like happiness is a state of being.
Now, let me ask you a question. Where do you live?
Initially, you might respond ‘In my home’. Think a little deeper. We live in our bodies. Right? Our minds and our bodies are not seperate entities. They are one. So to enjoy a true state of health we must have a healthy mind and a healthy body – because in fact, they are ‘one’. I truely believe that you can not have happiness without health. This is not to say that you can not be happy if you have a health concern/condition. What I mean, is that happiness is a state of mind and your mind and body are so deeply connected that for you to have your best state of mind, you need to have your best state of health in your physical body.So if your not taking care of your body, and not valuing your health, your true level of happiness will be hindered.
So how can you improve your state of health today? Make the decision to! It might sound like I am making something seemingly complex seem trivial. I promise you I am not. What is a habit really? It is a decision. i.e if you make the same decision over and over again it becomes a habit. It becomes an unconscious decision that we make without realising it. When our decisions start to become ‘unconscious’ or made ‘subconsciously’, this is when changing our habits or creating new habits can start to seem so complex. This is when we start to say things like “I wish I could stop drinking Coke, but I just can’t, and I don’t know how” . The truth is that you DO know how, you are just making your choice subconsciously.
More often than not we are actually quite aware what is keeping us from realising that higher level of health, but we are making a subconscious decision to continue with our current habits. In order to create a new positive habit, or to change an old one we must decide to. Often a habit is created either because we are attempting to avoid something – for example we avoid exercise because its hard and uncomfortable. Or because we are seeking more immediate gratification – for example we feel tired so we choose to drink coke now rather than catching up on sleep later. Or we procrastinate from exercising, because it feels good right now to just sit on the couch instead.
In order to change these habits or create new ones, we first need to recognise WHY we are doing what we are doing. Then we need to ask ourselves how we could replace that habit with something that has the same result, but without having a negative impact. Plus we need to be sure that we are making that decision consciously.
Gratitude and gratefulness are kind of ‘buzz words’ right now, and have been for a while. WHY? Because successful people don’t whine about things. They get on with life and they don’t live in the past. But more importantly they practice gratefulness because it enriches their life! Gratefulness allows us to enjoy the journey. It allows us to be present, and ensures that whilst we strive for improving our life we don’t focus too much on tomorrow and we can be happy today.
Sure, successful and happy people will have moments of feeling like things aren’t going as well as they would like. They suffer blows too. These ‘blows’ can affect us all. The real question is how we manage these potential setbacks. Like the saying goes “It doesn’t matter what happens to you, it matters how you deal with it”. Successful people will choose to use their experiences and challenges as an opportunity for growth. They accept that where they are right now is exactly where they need to be. They understand that life journey. Sometimes it is bliss, and sometimes we need to experience something negative / uncomfortable to allow ourselves to be challenged. From challenge comes growth.
How can you practice gratefulness?
Some people like to journal. If your thinking “I haven’t got time for that” This could be as simple as writing 5 words on a page at the end of an evening just before you go to bed. Literally just 5 words. It doesn’t need to be a paragraph or even a sentence.
Practicing gratefulness could be part of your bedtime routine or tradition with your child. Talking about what was the best thing about their day, and why they loved it so much.
Gratefulness could be as simple as choosing to do an everyday task mindfully. For example, noticing the movements of your body as you wash the dishes. Feeling the ground beneath your feet, the warm water on your hands, enjoying how the suds change form and the movement of the water. Put simply, finding joy in really simple things!
FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION
In order to follow your intuition, you first need to find it! Finding it can take a bit of practice. You need to be deeply in tune with yourself first. A common question is “How do you know if it is your intuition is saying yes/no, or if it’s your fear”. Melissa Ambrosini explained it so well, that I will use her explanation. Your intuition is a FEELING. Your fear is “that voice inside your head”. Learning to listen to your heart and gut can be difficult when your head can be so ‘active’ and loud. To follow our intuition we need to ‘get out of our head’. Like Tony says “Stay in your head, your dead!”
A common account from ‘Successful people’ is that when they follow their gut – even when their head (their fear) says “no” they find that the outcome is favourable. They also notice that when they follow their head, and listen to their fears and ‘buy into the story’ that the mind has created, the outcome is unfavourable.
Your gut is smart. (There is actually evidence that there are 3 types of ‘brains’ working within our body – our ‘brain’ along with out ‘Heart brain’ and our ‘gut brain’). Learn to use all three, and you will be one step closer to finding and living your best quality of life.
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LIVE YOUR PASSION
Do you feel ‘stuck’ in a job that you don’t enjoy? Do you feel like you could be offering more to the world? Perhaps your passions lie outside of work. They say ‘find a job you love and never work a day in your life again’. I used to think that there would be NO WAY that I could find a job that I truely loved. However, learning to listen to my gut and my heart, and exploring how to combine these with my talents and skills has allowed me to believe that it is possible to really enjoy your work.
People whom I admire, and that are highly successful within their career are almost always doing something that they LOVE. What I find incredibly interesting is that often these roles are extremely non-traditional. Many successful people have managed to explore their passions and talents, and have found a way to combine them into meaningful services / products that contribute to society – and people WANT to pay for these services.
I think we can get so ‘stuck’ in thinking we ‘should’ be doing a particular job (e.g because we studied for a period etc) that we fail to take the opportunity to explore other options that could make us happier. Of course we need to be ‘responsible’ and pay our bills and support our family, but just knowing that there is potential to earn money in a way that you really enjoy could be the start of something great. Just explore it, and see where this can take you.
You don’t necessarily need to ‘quit’ your job to enjoy your passion at work. Perhaps you just need to explore how you ended up where you are. What drove you to choose the position you are in? Maybe there are skills that you enjoy using, that you could be implementing in your current role but haven’t thought outside the box to start actually doing that.
If you have no idea where your passions lie and how to find them, author Ken Robinson has an excellent book entitled Finding Your Element. Within the book you will find actionable resources that can help you to discover your talents and passions and transform your life.
DON’T LET RULES OF SOCIETY DETERMINE YOUR LIFE
Have you ever really wanted to try something, but then didn’t because you were worried about what other people thought? We are all unique individuals. We all come with our own set of skills, personality, our own unique experiences – yet we still try to fit into the same box. When you think about it like that, it seems so silly. Just by being you, you have a uniqueness that no one else can offer. So why not use these skills in the way in which you dream, to contribute to society in the best way you can. It doesn’t have to be ‘usual’ to be successful. In fact, the most successful and happiest people are often the ones that chose to do things a little differently.
We all have responsibilities etc that we must fulfil, and we can’t ‘just pin our hopes on a dream and wish for success’, but often this isn’t what we are hoping for. What we hope for is to enjoy our life doing things we love, even if it takes some hard work.
Often we are ‘so busy’ being ‘so responsible’ that we forget to stop and ask ourselves “If I could create the life that I wanted to live, what would it look like”. When you live with this question in the forefront of your mind, you start to see the world a little differently. Just by simply asking yourself different questions, you can start to change your world and the way in which you view it. Change your world and you can change your life.
Let yourself create the life that YOU CHOOSE. Not a life that you thought was mapped out for you, or the life you thought you should live.
USE YOUR FAILURES TO GROW
I mentioned this briefly earlier. In order to create success and happiness we need to continually grow as beings. We can live in the present, and be completely happy with where we are right now, knowing that it is exactly where were are meant to be whist simultaneously looking to the future wanting to add more value in our life and to others around us. Doing this is almost an ‘art form’. What is most important here, is that we choose to grow from our past. We can choose to criticise ourselves over and over and nit pick at every mistake we have made along the way. OR we can choose GROWTH. The past is in the past. Leave it there. Don’t bring negative emotions that belong in the past into your present or future. They have no place here. They are not welcome.
How can you grow from your experiences? REFLECTION is a great tool to help you do this. Some of us are naturally reflective people, and some of us need a little guidance. Basically we need to ask ourselves a few questions.
- What did I do well that I should repeat in the future?
- What didn’t I do so well that I wouldn’t do again?
- How will I change my approach next time.
Literally write the answers down. Spend some quality time reflecting and analysing your experience. Talk about it with others if you choose. Once you have reflected and have new strategies and new tools MOVE ON! It’s okay if you come back to it every once in a while, but only if you feel like there is more to learn from the experience. If, however you keep coming back to it just to take yourself for another round in an emotional boxing ring, than this is not healthy.
If you find your mind wondering back give yourself a phrase that you can use to stop negative thoughts and emotions from rising. Something like “I have been here, I grew from this experience, and now I lay it to rest” OR “Shut up head, we don’t need to talk about this again” if you need something a bit more ‘fierce’.
TAKE A RISK AND DO SOMETHING UNCOMFORTABLE
Successful people are ‘comfortable with being uncomfortable’. What does this really mean? We don’t have to put ourselves in situations that we spend our time dreading. We want to be happy right? Being comfortable with being uncomfortable is about not letting our fears control us. Our bodies are wired to stay away from situations that could potentially harm us. However, sometimes that ‘potential harm’ is not actually real. We have created it in out minds. It may be fear of being judged, fear of feeling embarrassed, or fear of not being successful straight away. What we should really be scared of is living a life that we look back on and think “I wish….”
Ask yourself this one simple question. If I was 90 years old and looking back on my life, would I have any regret not trying this?” If the answer is YES, you need to do whatever it is you are thinking of doing! Remember we only live this life once. We need to take the opportunities that are presented to us, even if we have to go searching for the opportunity. The truth is that the opportunity is there somewhere. You just need to be looking out for it and open to finding it, and be willing to do something a little uncomfortable to make it happen.
If you think mediation is for ‘hippies’ than think again. Seriously, success and happiness comes from being deeply connected with yourself and others. Mediation does not need to be what you would traditionally think either. You don’t need to be sitting on a mat or doing yoga. Mediation is simply finding your breath and having some ‘time out’ from the world around us. Coming back into yourself, and connecting with yourself. You can do it in a minute or you can do it for an hour. You can do it while your running, or while laying in a quiet room. What is important is that you take time to be with yourself.
Connecting with your breath and making your thoughts quiet can be challenging!! Especially if you have not practiced this before. A ‘yogi’ once described how you can manage this by ‘acknowledging your thoughts by labelling them’. For example if you are intending to mediate and can not stop your mind from ‘thinking’ simply categorise that thought and come back to your breath. Perhaps you start to think about “what will we have for dinner” – Acknowledge “food thought” then go back to your breath. You may then start to think about an upcoming event you have. Acknowledge “Social thought” (or whatever resonates with you) then go back to your breath. Over time, your mind will become quieter.
Like I said, you DO not have to have a huge entire chance of time to meditate. Find your ‘minimal commitment’. That is find an amount of time and space that you can comitt to practicing meditation. It could be just 2 minutes at first. Remember, it does NOT have to be sitting. Personally I enjoy meditation whilst swimming, running and just before I go to bed at night. There are no ‘rules’. Do what works for you.
TUNE IN & CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF REGULARLY
Checking in with your body is a little different to mediation. Checking in is more about knowing what is your body asking of you right now. It’s stopping and taking the time to ask a few questions that resonate with you. Personally I ask myself “How do I feel right now”. When you ‘check in’ you then need to comitt to ‘delivering your body what it needs/what it is asking for’ . For example, If you feel tired, you may ensure you have more sleep that evening. Maybe you fell ‘jittery’ and need to go for a run to burn some energy. Perhaps your head feels a bit ‘noisy’ and you could benefit from a dose of meditation.
‘Checking in’ is about being in tune with my body, and creating a balance by giving it what it is asking for. Make it a regular routine. Initially you can ‘check in’ regularly so that it becomes a habit. For example each time you have a drink of water. Make sure that you check in at least once a day – perhaps with your morning cuppa.
LIVE WITH LOVE
Above all, happy people live with love. They love themselves, and believe that they are good human beings that deserve good things. They love the people around them. In fact, they surround themselves with people they love and that they feel ‘energised’ around. When I say energised, I mean people who ‘fill them up’. They spend quality time with people whom they feel deeply connected with, and that they feel bring them joy.
They live with love and purposefully choose a life that they love. Successful people spend more of their time doing what they love and enjoy because they prioritise their health, their wellbeing and their happiness.
Successful people make an intentional choice to be the best version of themselves that they can be each and every day. They aspire to be mindful and present. They live in the here and now, whilst still aiming to continue to grow with each day. They find happiness in life’s simple pleasures, and know that life is one great big opportunity ready for the taking. They just have to choose to take it!
RECAP- SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE:
- Seriously value their health and wellbeing
- Practice gratefulness
- Follow their intuition
- Live their passion
- Do not let ‘rules’ of society mould their life
- Use their ‘failures’ to add to their success
- Are willing to take risks and do uncomfortable things
- Are in tune with themselves
- LIVE with LOVE
If you can just choose a couple of these actionable steps, I can almost guarantee that your health and wellbeing will improve and that your sense of success will continue to prosper. If you want access to some fantastic tools to help make sure you are successful in your health and fitness journey, join the SRM team today. Our FREE Resource Library is full of workbooks, checklists, nutrition guides, training plans and more.